Thursday, August 6, 2009

About A Boy -- posted by Sarah Grace

I said Will was the "problem child" in an earlier post, but let me clarify what I meant.  He wasn't promiscuous, and he didn't do drugs or any of the things typical parents would worry about.  Rather, he was self-centered, competitive with his siblings, and neglectful of his responsibilities and his family relationships.  He spent more time trying to pass the next level in his latest Sega game than he did being an obedient son and a loving older brother.  It became a real point of contention between he and my mom.  He saw Mom as the enemy when she demanded that he focus on his family rather than on himself and his video games.  Will can attest to the innumerable threats of being shipped off to Camden Military Academy. 

His early teen behavior is unfortunately the behavior most male youth exhibit in our culture.  Gone are the days of mature, responsible men who put away childish pursuits and focus on becoming adults.  Today's generation is made of Peter Pans.  My mom spends the greater part of her parenting harping on my brothers to avoid the Neverland epidemic, as it's obviously an important subject in a family with seven boys.  Her concern led her to post a provocative article on our family website mainly for my brothers to read.  She vowed to rear her children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, and believe me, there is such great opposition to this common sense that even secular sociologists have identified it.

I don't know how it is where you live, but where I come from there is a serious lack of noblemen.  That's why Christian girls, like the ones I mentioned in a former post, are bemoaning their unmarried status.  It's because decent, responsible gentlemen aren't to be found anymore.  That's also why I'm not attracted to my male peers... they're not mature adults!  God calls women to be submissive to their husbands, and even Sarah called Abraham "Master."  I'm waiting for someone whose heart agrees with this concept, instead of becoming impatient and settling for the slim pickin's around me.  I certainly don't want to end up calling a PlayStation addict "Master."

My parents recognize the lack of noblemen in our society, which is why they teach my brothers that women are to be treated like delicate flowers with respect, honor, and chivalry.  My brothers learned early that their duty is to stand when a lady enters the room, open doors, pull out chairs, carry bags, do the heavy work and dirty work, etc.  But beyond basic manners, my parents have taught them that God calls husbands to be the providers, the protectors, and the leaders.  They are to love their wives as Christ loves the church and gave himself for her. 

Will has come a long way from the "child-man" of his youth, to becoming the kind of man in whom a wife can safely trust.  Lucky her.


FR said...

The women out there today are not exactly the creme' de le creme' either. Except for you of course.

- Franklin

The Allen Family said...

Thank you for your kind words.

Sorry, I didn't see your comment until just now. Our blog doesn't notify us if someone leaves a comment. It's annoying... I should double-check the settings to see if we overlooked something.

I agree with you and I lament the situation, because frankly, I don't even have a best friend! The problem is, most women today have veered from the Biblical standard of womanhood since the rise of the feminist movement. However, one could argue that feminism is the result of men not executing their duty as leaders and protectors.

God gave women the natural instinct to be dependent on men. If the man isn't fulfilling his role it creates bitterness in the woman, which leads to the woman becoming independent, distrusting, and sour.

That's why girls like me need men like you to set it all aright.

Sarah Grace x